The Best Sex
Male and female God created us humans, so says Genesis 1:27, which means, among other things, that sex is built right into the essential nature of who we are. No sex, no more people.
The author of Genesis goes right on in the next verse with: And God blessed them. And God said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply.”
Sex is blessed; God’s seal of approval on sex between the male and the female is loudly expressed in the very first chapter in the Bible. Sex here is called being “fruitful.”
Rounding out chapter two we find God making this most incredible statement:
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. And the man and his wife were both naked and were not ashamed.
“One flesh”—is this a discreet description of a sexual coupling? Likely, and we notice that they were naked without shame. I suspect they were enjoying lots of wonderful sex.
But this would change, and quickly.
Something terrible happened
Three chapters into Genesis we find that something terrible occurred. We call it the “Fall” and the race, as you’ve noticed, is still falling. One little command was broken, in fact, it was the only command in existence. It was simply not to eat of the fruit of a particular tree.
The tree, the Creator God said was “the tree of the knowledge of God and evil” (Genesis 2:17). He warned them that if they ate of it they would surely die.
They ate of it thanks to the inspiration of a lying serpent, and rather than keeling over, they suddenly had knowledge, and that of good and evil. It was too much for them and when “they heard the LORD walking in the garden in the cool of the day” (verse 3:8) they hid themselves among the trees of the garden.
The LORD pursued them, and called out to the man, who replied, “I heard the sound of you in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked, and I hid myself.” (verse 3:10) And we have been hiding ever since.
What happened next?
Sex has taken over as being what is foremost on everyone’s mind. Instead of being a part of life, it has embraced us with an unholy embrace. No need here to cite stats and report a countless number of case studies, our sexuality is confused and diseased.
On a nude beach everyone knows they are naked. Fun they say but not good for you, as I have had plenty of folks, especially ex-hippies, tell me over the decades. Exhilarating, hormone charging, but there is something that goes on with the brain’s chemistry that harms us. Just like viewing porn does.
Porn viewing and engaging in sexual behavior other than that which is intended by the Creator God, produces guilt, shame, anger, hyper sexuality, even addiction to sex, all of which dehumanizes a person. One may be driven to greater and greater excess, risky behavior, which damages relationships and undermines one’s sense of self, even if it is all rather, and/or mostly, unconscious.
Is this too harsh a judgment on my part? Is it that I have just not dropped enough acid, smoked enough dope, or refuse to adopt a more liberated mindset?
Soon perhaps, the only voices who speak out against unbiblical sexual practices will be those who adhere to an evangelical and biblical worldview. The culture will sweep the rest into conformity to the prevailing trends and celebrate, even legalize, forms of sexuality the Scripture condemns.
It is likely that, as time goes on, even thinking, much less communicating, that homosexuality and bisexuality, will be said to be a hate crime. 1984 and Brave New World here we come.
Even the so-called rights to free speech will be eroded and denied in favor of the sexual free-for-all agenda. One wonders why this would be so?
Why the dramatic departure from normal, biblical sexuality? The answer may be the inward fear and guilt people sense who then need to find a rational and excuse for their behavior. We are rapidly moving to be a culture that has lost its moral compass.
Will we ever know the pleasure of true and Godly sex?
Probably not is my view; others may differ, but I do not see a movement toward a time like we had it in the garden. Not that this generation of people on the planet is any worse than any other, and there have been some really gross eras in our history, but I would admit to a general decline especially in first world nations.
This brings up the question if those who follow the commands of God as found in Scripture might enjoy sex as once intended.
Sex can be healthy
My experience is that Christians, generally, enjoy good sex, maybe the best sex. And sex is really good for us. Biblically oriented sex is the best sex since it has a better chance of being free from guilt and shame.
Did you notice that Adam and Eve were naked and did not even know it? We will never see those days again. But we can come close, or closer than some might think.
No one is as pure as the wind driven snow, not me, not you. We have simply been exposed to so much garbage that the lovely days of innocence will not come our way, but we can move in that direction.
Okay, let’s look at what it can be like.
One, admit the Creator God’s ideal that sex is between a man and a woman, and who are married. (remember Genesis 1:27-28 and Genesis 3:23-25)
Two, grasp that married means having sex with only one another. They are not having affairs, not watching X rated stuff on the tube, not experimenting with other forms of sexuality—they are devoted to each other. These people, will have a lower chance of divorce since there is a strong sexual and love bond between them.
There is nothing to hide, nothing to be found out, no guilt, no shame, and they can go at it as much and as often as they want to. Real freedom, real pleasure.
How can this be?
I can hear it now. “Too late for me, I am dirty, and there is no going back.”
Wrong!
Go back and read the chapter on forgiveness. You too can experience the joy of being forgiven and by the Creator God. You have eaten of the forbidden fruit and have been forced out of the garden, but Jesus Christ opens the door back in.
Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life. (John 14:6) Turn away from the sickness around you and turn toward the Savior. It is not too late, never too late. Jesus is always knocking on the door.